What habits keep people poor?

Unfortunately, money habits aren’t taught in school. Most people get them from their parents. And if your parents didn’t have good money habits, it’s likely that it’s rubbed off on you.

So unless you really focus on changing habits that are costing you in the long-run, you’ll likely always be having a hard time managing money, or creating a fortune. Following are the most common habits that keep people poor – even those with a good income.

You’re relying on a single source of income

Most people just rely on a linear income and try to tiptoe through life wondering why their wealth isn’t ever growing. Linear payments include a salary, allowances or one-time payments.

Smart people, on the other hand, tend to focus on creating sources of passive income. They come in the form of royalties, interest, profit, etc. They don’t rely on a single source of income.

In fact, 65% of people had at least 3 streams of income before making their first million dollars. A lot of people seem to think that creating a passive income is a quick and easy alternative.

While it is definitely the smart option, it requires a lot of effort and possibly even years of hard work before you can see your labor bear fruit. If you’re like me, the best way out is to create sources of passive income while keeping your day job.

If you’re just earning money via your job and not investing time and money on starting a side business or passive income project, it’s likely that you’ll eventually run out of luck.

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Linear income is like carrying a bucket to the river to fetch water. After a while your energy levels and health may not remain as robust – that’s when the real problems begin.

You have poor saving and spending habits

At one point I was working for a PR agency in Dubai, and making some serious money. I was working really hard, didn’t have much of a life outside of work, didn’t have time for friends and family, and at the end of the day didn’t even have any savings to show for my efforts. Why?

Because I was spending every penny I earned on a fancy apartment in upscale Dubai, buying fancy clothes – I thought people would take me more seriously for it – and spending truckloads on a fancy car and gadgets.

While it’s good to improve your lifestyle when you can, if you’re constantly looking for ways to spend your money, you’re destined for failure.

Stop thinking about ways to increase your expenses as soon as you get a raise. Instead, work on saving first, and spending later.

Robert Kiyosaki, author of Rich Dad Poor Dad, says, ‘Pay yourself first.’ Whether it’s an investment in real-estate or side hustle, or saving 20% or more of your earnings, do that first and take care of the expenses second.

Only 5% of the poor saved 10% of their income, according to this 5-year study. None saved over 20%. Certain habits keep the poor, poor. 93% admitted they never budgeted their spending.

66% admitted they were not frugal with their money. They also had a bad habit of spontaneous spending.

88% of the poor in the study had $5000 or more of credit card debt.

You don’t value your time

People often don’t realize it but time is a lot more precious than even money. The rich understand this all too well. They invest their time wisely in building a notable career or multiple side incomes.

According to this study, here’s what’s draining the time of most people;

  • 77% of the poor people admitted to watching more than 1 hour of TV every day. They prefer reality TV. While less than 67% of the rich watch less than an hour each day.
  • 74% of the poor people surfed the internet a lot more than was needed – more than an hour a day – while 63% of the rich spent less than an hour each day on the internet. This freed up more time to invest in self-education.
  • Conversely, only 11% of the rich said they read for entertainment. Most of the rich surveyed read biographies, books on career, history, money, and self-help.

You’re always waiting to start your journey of success

How can you start your journey of success when you can’t move beyond the starting line? Whether it is fear, lack of capital or anything else; there’s no better time to start a business than now.

While you’re worried about not having enough capital, somebody is being resourceful about whatever little they have and building something valuable from it.

While you’re complaining about having a ton of challenges, someone is solving those very same problems, helping society become better, and earning money in the process.

The answer to all these and similar problems is this; start today, be resourceful and cast your fear aside. More importantly, anything that you want to do has already been done by someone else.

You can learn insider secrets from biographies or by talking to people who are already doing what you want to do. Learn, bootstrap and go.

 

How do you move emotionally from an ex?

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It was all sweet at first!.

Damn… It’s been long since my breakup, and I swear there are times when my mind just does its crazy thing of flashbacks to the lovey-dovey moments I had. I wouldn’t say I’ve completely moved on because for me, I still wonder time to time on how things could be different, if he cares etc. (don’t get me wrong, I was the one who initiated the breakup, but that’s a whole new story of its own)

I wouldn’t say I’m the best person to tell you a step-by-step guide on how to move on, but I am more than happy to share what has helped me come to a place of acceptance at the very least. Some of it is cliché in a sense, and also some of them were hard for me to carry out. Nonetheless, here are a few things I did:

  1. Allow myself to cry. Literally, I was bawling in my mum’s arms and she embraced me in a hug for two hours. I was dead wrong in thinking that I would not come out shattered, don’t underestimate the power of relationships. Take it this way, it’s as if the daily routine that you’re used to for 3 years is suddenly changed overnight by force, and you don’t have a choice but struggle to get through the new plan, and habits die hard. It may take weeks, months or years, but you will get there. Believe me. Things can suck really bad right now, I believe you. At the same time, have some faith in time, let time heal you. For now, allow the people close to you comfort you, doing this alone will be very difficult and lonely. You could call up a close brother for some drinks to trash it all out, by all means go right ahead (just don’t get too wasted and make sure the guy’s got your back)

I cried for several nights to sleep, it’s a process and it can’t be rushed. Be kind to yourself.

2. Avoid looking through old conversations and photos. Well unless you find that it helps you process and let go then sure go ahead. It definitely didn’t work for me, and it deepened the wound a lot. It’s like stabbing at the raw wound and making it bleed even more. I found myself recovering a little better after being off the phone more, and doing other things such as packing my desk, reading books or going out for ice cream. Little things to keep yourself moving matters, don’t let yourself hole up in that small world of technology.

3. Put away gifts. You probably would be very uncomfortable and unwilling to throw them out right now, however the very least you can do is keep them out of your sight. Put them in a box, and leave them out of your room, not even in the same room as you. I only did this after the 4th month onwards from the breakup, and it was surprisingly better for me to let go, it’s ‘cleansing’ in that way.

4. Trying out old hobbies. It took me quite some time as well, but I did eventually fell in love with music again. Sure my playlists were kinda depressing (oops, and please don’t do this for too long, music is a powerful medium, trust me on this one) but either way, the idea was me managing to find myself through my hobbies again and I became much livelier, and more willing to look inwards. It’s a beautiful moment when you’re finally able to tell yourself that this is truly where my heart is content. Again, this was what worked for me but I’m sure there’s no harm in trying! A lot of people seem to suggest this too.

5. Get a listening ear. If it’s hard for you to process things on your own, feel free to get a family member or a friend (a really good one) to listen to you. I had to verbalise whatever came up for me, random memories would pop up. Mine was different because I had an actual ‘counsellor’ to go to every Friday, so it helped me cope much better. (counsellor in ‘…’ because they aren’t officially called counsellors, will explain it in a bit)

6. I mentioned this earlier: be kind to yourself. It’s painful and heart-wrenching, it’s tough and it’s most definitely traumatic. Science has proven many things about break-ups having an effect etc, let’s not dive too deep into the theories and facts. The very least you should, and I mean should do is tend to your basic needs (shower, eat, sleep etc). Allow yourself to indulge; eat ice cream, go for a drink and get wasted (not too wasted)sleep longer hourts, call up good buddies for a day trip, go to a karaoke bar and sing like a madman. We all need a break, especially when things like this happen. It’s tough in the working world I’m sure, but don’t let that be an excuse for pushing yourself to the limit. No one can take care of you for you. Love yourself a little more through this hard time and accept yourself. You are no lesser than anyone else, just because you lost someone dear, you definitely have a place here and tell yourself that you ARE important.

I don’t know what went on, but I do know that break-ups aren’t easy. People can ruminate about this for years and even decades for some cases. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that come about, you’re being perfectly human, don’t invalidate them. At the same time, get to know yourself better and reflect, take it as a life lesson, about what to do, what not to do, or what to look out for. However, don’t let this put a damper on your potential for a better future, and endless possibilities that can happen. No matter what, keep moving forward and you’ll eventually be able to completely move on. I’m getting there, soon enough. You will know when things shift in perspective and when you are finally okay and not triggered anymore. Trust yourself.

Good job for toughing it out this far and wanting to help yourself, blessings to you. 🙂

By: Somebody who understands

P.S. I recommend that you go to this website to check out Mind Clearing, it’s what I’ve been trying out for quite some time now, and has helped me quite a bit. Give it about a month or two, it’s not meant to be an overnight game changer. It’ll help you understand what’s going on in that head better. Get better soon pal

By Janelle Koh